5 tips for writing your own wedding vows
When it comes to writing your own wedding vows, it’s totally normal to feel a little bit daunted. After all, you’re about to make promises to the person you love - no pressure, right? But don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be a scary task!
The secret to writing vows that truly matter is to keep them real, true to who you are and reflective of the love you’re ready to commit to from the very moment you say, “I do”.
Here are my thoughts on how to write wedding vows that really speak to your heart and leave a lasting impression.
Tip 1: Speak from the heart
Your vows are a reflection of you - your love, your journey and your future together. So, make them yours!
Don’t stress about being poetic or sounding like you’ve just stepped out of a romance novel - the beauty of your vows comes from their honesty. Speak to your partner as if no one else is listening. How do they make you feel? What promises do you want to make for your future together?
Keep it simple and heartfelt - that’s what matters.
Tip 2: Keep it personal
Your vows should capture what makes your relationship so special and unique. Think about the memories that have meant the most to you both - the big moments, the little gestures and everything in between. You could even throw in a funny story or memory that reminds you why you’re standing there today.
Personal touches like that will make your vows feel one-of-a-kind, just like your relationship.
Tip 3: What do you promise?
The core of your vows is about the promises you’re making. Look to the future - what kind of partner do you want to be? Do you promise to always support them, to continue growing together or to make them laugh even when life’s not going to plan?
Whatever promises you make, make sure they’re specific to you both. Think about what really matters in your relationship and the commitments that feel right for your future.
Tip 4: Be realistic and genuine
It’s easy to get swept up in the excitement of the moment but wedding vows are for life. Your vows should reflect your reality, not some idealistic fantasy.
You might promise to be there for each other through thick and thin but it’s also important to remember that no one’s perfect. It’s okay to acknowledge that love can be tough sometimes but it’s worth fighting for.
Keep it genuine and grounded.
Tip 5: Don’t leave it to the last minute!
Please, whatever you do - don’t leave writing your vows until the last minute!
You want to give yourself plenty of time to reflect, find the right words and make sure they really represent how you feel. Starting early means you can come back to them when inspiration strikes.
Writing your vows is a personal process, so it’s worth taking the time to make them meaningful.
The biggest takeaway
The most important thing to remember when writing your vows is that they should be in your own words.
Don’t feel the need to copy something you’ve heard or follow a template. Your vows are all about the love you share and the future you’re building together. Speak from the heart, keep it personal and make it true to your relationship.
By writing your own vows, you’re giving your partner a gift that’s truly unique and that, above all, is what will make your ceremony unforgettable. And, if you are really stuck, I am always available to give you some inspiration and support.